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Ministry Motivation

Someone asked the other day, "Why do you do what you do?"

Not a bad question. Who really wants to work in the non-profit sector in a position that has dwindling social status and is difficult to make friends because your social life suffers at the hands of having to work weekends? Oh, did I mention that you get to face the darkness of people's lives and are asked to share "Good News" at all times? 

There are three things that motivate me in ministry beyond the fact that I believe I am called into this work. (I would not choose this for myself for the above mentioned reasons, but I cannot imagine doing anything else).

I am willing to bet that my motivators are also similar to those fortunate enough to have a job that fits their vocation.

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In no real order, the primary motivators are:

    • Passion
    • Purpose
    • Prophetic

    I have a passion of helping people spiritually develop and mature. I have a growing sense that the amount of spiritual immaturity is growing and needs to be addressed (see some of the immature responses to the Sandy Hook shooting). I am passionate about helping people to spiritually mature. I am willing to bet those who have found their vocation are motivated by a deep passion.

    Another motivator in my life is a deep sense of purpose to do what I am called to do. My purpose and passion are very much related and overlap all the time. It is my sense of purpose that gives me the courage/strength that is needed to have difficult conversations that are easily dodged if my purpose was more focused on making people happy.

    Finally, those who have a clear purpose and passion for their vocation some tend to have a prophetic understanding of their vocation. What I mean by this is that to be prophetic is to be one who speaks truth to power even in the face of personal danger. A person may be passionate about  their job and even have a clear purpose as to what they want to do, but are not interested in putting their very self on the line for the sake of their vocation. Being prophetic is a double edged sword that does not garner a lot of friends, but frankly is a motivating factor for me and those I admire.

    So what motivates you to do what you do?

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    I want my kid to understand the sacrament before they participate

    As a pastor I hear this a lot from parents. Parents want their kids to understand communion or baptism and want me, the pastor, to explain it to them. 

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    The ability to explain communion or baptism to a 3rd grader is so important that many people who are moving toward ordination are asked this question in ordination interviews. As though 3rd graders are the only ones who do not understand.

    But in all honesty, you cannot explain the sacraments - no one can. 

    The sacraments are holy habits that Christians participate in. They are the things that shape us as a community.

    I cannot being to share with anyone what the sacraments mean because they are not something that I do. The sacraments are a part of who I am. It is like asking me to describe what the color of my eyes mean or the shape of my hands mean. I cannot tell you, but these things help make me who I am.

    We are all called to participate in the sacraments, some people heed the call and allow these holy habits to shape them and form them into the people who they are. 

    Others are busy trying to understand them as though a good working knowledge of the sacraments matters more than participating in them.

    I can explain why someone would participate in the sacraments much easier than I can explain all the different meanings of the sacraments - even to a 3rd grader.

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    Power of Habit and Spiritual Disciplines

    The book, The Power of Habit, the author shares and experiment involving rats running through a maze. There were rats that ran through a maze several times a day for several days. 

    "As each rat learned how to navigate the maze, its mental activity decreased. As the route became more and more automatic, each rat started thinking less and less. It was as if the first few times a rat explored the maze, its brain had to work at full power to make sense of all the new information. But after a few days of running the same route, the rat didn’t need to scratch the walls or smell the air anymore, and so the brain activity associated with scratching and smelling ceased. It didn’t need to choose which direction to turn, and so decision-making centers of the brain went quiet. All it had to do was recall the quickest path to the chocolate."
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    The only thing that I could think of as I read the above paragraph in the book was this is part of the intent of spiritual practices/disciplines. 

    If you have ever tried to begin a new spiritual practice, say meditation or scripture reading, you may find that it is a difficult thing to do. You have to 'think' about it a lot which makes it labor intensive and exhausting and difficult to do. All of which generally does not encourage one to continue on.

    So the new discipline is abandoned.

    But the rat experiment says to me that at the moments that your working the hardest, your brain is working hard to make it easier in the long run. After a while, you will no longer have to think about how to meditate or pray or sit in silence. Your brain will have pathways set up so that you fall right into habit mode.

    Many religious people have this romantic notion that they will not do something spiritual unless they "really mean it". So preachers sometimes say things like, "Lets say the Lord's Prayer like we really mean it." As though just saying it out of habit is a negative thing or something that is less than total cognitive awareness.

    But habits are not a negative thing at all. Habits shape our lives. 

    When was the last time you really thought about the way you brush your teeth? Or to put it another way, when was the last time you brushed your teeth like you "really meant it"?

    This is the point. Just because we do not do something without "really meaning it" does not mean it is really without meaning. 

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