"truth" Trumping Love

Every political outlet these days has some commentary on Donald Trump. I am willing to bet that you have an opinion on Donald Trump. If you agree with him or not, he has to be dealt with because he is drawing so many people and, in his words (which are never short of sensationalism), "I'm literally killing everybody in the polls." 

Why is he doing so well in these polls that are so many days away from the election? Many people have commented that they like Trump because he "tells the truth" or is "real" or "unscripted". He is a not a politician who is sensitive to political correctness but just a guy who is out there being "authentic". 

His comments about Mexican immigrants, women, African Americans, Global warming, President Obama's birth, and his ego-centrism are applauded by some as evidence that he is a man who says what is on his mind and tells it like he sees it. No matter how offensive or degrading the comments, it is the "truth" that is Trumping the day.

When I say "truth" I do not mean that Donald Trump is correct or even speaking Truth. I believe that he, and his supporters, feel that Trump is speaking the truth as they perceive it. So when he speaks, he is giving voice to people who feel like they do not have a voice - classic politician. 

But even if you agree with Donald Trump and his comments and think that he is speaking Truth (or "truth" as it were), as a Christian we have to consider the question - what is more important Truth or Love. 

I believe that Love trumps Truth everyday of the week. I cannot quote every Bible verse that talk about the supremacy of Love because there are many. There is scripture that states "God is Love". Paul does not even list Truth in his "big three" (Faith, Hope and Love) to his letter to the Corinthians. Jesus broke the laws (and thus was "wrong") in order to show love to the neighbor.

The Christian is faced with the conviction that if our "truth" is not loving then it is not Truth of Christ. It just is not. If the "truth" we seek and applaud is not bringing more love and light into the world then it is not Truth. If the "truth" we affirm is one that puts women down, builds barriers to relationships, marginalizes groups of people, views the world as "us vs. them", sees people as either "winners" or "losers" then it is not Truth. 

Trump may be polling well these days in part because we have become more like Pilate who was on a quest for "truth" rather than like Christ who was on a quest for Love. When we value "truth" (our little and limited perception of Truth), over Love then we have indeed lost our way. 

My young adult has left the Church (part 6)

As a final of three areas of bridge building conversation between those whom I have had a conversation with who might be identified as “deChurched”, I wanted to turn to a rather ‘hot topic’ for many people: religious pluralism

I do not know what it was like to grow up in Christendom. What I mean is I do not know what it is like to be a member of the Church when the Christian Church was the only religion on the block. I never have known a monoculture (and I would be willing to be you may not have either if you look deep enough). It is clear to me that my situation is becoming, or perhaps already is, the norm for my peers and those younger than me. This might be why there is so much resistance and tension when my peers and I begin to talk about religious pluralism because it is native to our world and perhaps others are migrants into this world. I do not know, but I hear many conversations of people in and out of the Church who share something like, “I don’t say it out loud, but I just cannot understand or believe that Jesus is the only way to God” or “You cannot tell me that Gandhi and Mother Teresa are not with God” or “Why do Christians put so much emphasis on believing when the parable of the sheep and the goats placed no such emphasis on belief but on action?”.

If you want to engage your young adult who might be leaving the Church, the area of pluralism might be one of the most "bridge building" areas because the young adult has so much they can teach us. They know more about other religions in the world than previous generations in part because of the internet but also because they actually know practicing Buddhists, Hindus, and Muslims. So in an effort to engage conversation strike up a conversation about the areas of these different religions they find interesting. As the conversation moves along you can begin to see what it is your young adult is drawn to so you might be able to share with them the same/similar practices in Christianity.

For instance, few Protestants ever have engaged a labyrinth, Tazie worship, the hours of the day, worship art walks, Christian mantra, fasting, adoration, confession, journaling, or other disciplines which are often of interest of young adults. Engaging in a conversation and expressing how many of the things which are "spiritual" in other religions are very much alive and well in the Christian faith.

When asked with the question, "Do you think Christianity/Jesus is the only way to God?" I do not know the answer to that question, but I do think that Jesus is the way that I experience God and I know that many others can find God through Jesus. My bias is rooted not only in my conviction for Jesus but also, I must admit, my ignorance in other religions. Perhaps I can find a way to God though Hinduism or perhaps the teachings of the Tao, I do not know. I can honestly say that for me, Jesus is the way to God.

The boundary setting Christianity (that is using the Bible to decide who is "in and out") is often the Christianity I hear being rejected by young adults. I have found great success with engaging in conversation which exposes a personal conviction rather than a universal claim. For instance, rather than telling people who Jesus is, I have found much greater success in conversation by telling people who Jesus is to me. This removes the universal claims which keeps the boundaries from being set so early and thus shutting off conversation but also this focus makes me a little vulnerable.

When we share about Jesus through the Creeds and Scripture and do not share Jesus through our own lives it is easy to keep Jesus at a distance as though Faith is an academic endeavor. Rather if we begin to share with people who Jesus is to us, Faith is not focused on the head but the heart. Caution to the Christian: when you share about Jesus in your life it is a vulnerable position - you are exposed and you can feel uncomfortable. But these are the same things which encourage honesty and authentic conversations. We have to be willing to share our own story if we expect others to share theirs.

So I ask you, without using creeds or scripture (which by the way deChurched do not put any authority in those things but they do put authority in relationships) - who is Jesus to you?

Great, take that answer and share it.

My young adult has left the Church (part 5)

This is a little series of posts I put out in 2010, at the time they were helpful for a number of people, I hope that continues to be true today.


Continuing to look at how to engage with the "deChurched" we look to the issue of theodicy. This post is not an exhaustive conversation on the question of why is there evil in the world if there is a God (aka - the question of theodicy ), rather it is to help ignite conversations between those in the Church and those who have left the Church. This is a rather lofty topic and I anticipate you have thoughts of your own as well, consider this an invitation to share those thoughts.

Before I go any further it should be noted that I do not know a single person who can explain this mystery. I know there are people who have thoughts on the topic, but I have yet to discover if there is any sort of consensus on this issue. If you are reading this and looking for the answer to the question of theodicy, I am afraid I will not meet your expectations.

In that same vein, this is also not a post about what I believe about theodicy questions. Rather, this is a post to offer tools which have helped me begin conversations with people of all kinds and tools which I hope might be helpful in your conversations with people you encounter.

Generally speaking, when theoldicy issues come up in a conversation I have with a "deChurched", agnostic, or atheist the other person has a very logical and methodical argument. These arguments are generally very tight and the person seems sold on the logic they present. So, as one about to engage in conversations it is worth noting that people think very deeply about this issue. I recently got an email that was three pages long on written by a "deChurched" person on this topic and that instantly said to me, "this is a passionate issue to this person."

When I have engaged conversations on theodicy with the "deChurched" I have found great bridge building when I ask a lot of questions. Not questions to trap or questions intended to lead down a path that you think leads to a certain "logical conclusion". No, questions of authentic curiosity are the type of questions I am talking about.

"Why do you think there is violence in the world?"

"Do you think humanity, at our core, is inherently good or evil?"

"What sort of ethics do you follow?"

"Where or how did you come to learn this?"

Questions like these are not perfect but they do not need to be. The intent is to open conversation and get at the heart of the matter (which I believe is what each of our God images are).

As you engage in conversation I promise you will be challenged and encounter questions that may cut to the core of your own theology and God image. That is a good and wonderful thing. Allow the conversation to open you up and share what you believe and where/how you come to believe this.

As for me personally, I have found great success in reading a lot of Rene Girard, anthropology books, Walter Wink, behavioral economics, and evolutionary psychology. These sources give me many more areas to pull into the conversation from additional questions and metaphors to science experiments and illustrations. I would invite you to find resources that address the issues of theodicy and weave them into your own thought/question asking. There is only so far in the area of theodicy that one can go on their own without help and I hope we Christians would continue to seek help from God and our neighbors.

I know this is rather vague, but it is important that we do not have all the answers especially in areas of such a great mystery. If you do have the answers and you are trying to 'convince' others of your answers, I am curious to know how that is going? If you are not having any 'success' I wonder what would happen if we stopped trying to convince people with our words and invite them into a relationship with our actions.